Rencently, my 15 years old daughter sneeked a boy in my house while I was at work. When I got home he was on the porch leaving; I asked her about it. She lied and said he came by to borrow a text book. I let it go, but when I was cooking dinner, she was in the shower [[Kind of earlier then normal]]. So, I went in her room and found a condom in the trash can and her sheets were in the dirty clothes. I asked her did she have sex and I informed her I wouldn't get mad, but of course she denied it and had a excuss for everything. I don't know wheather to trust her word or go with my thoughts. HELP.
Some of the excuses she made was...
The sheets were dirty because she haven't washed them in a while.

The condom was from health class [[everyone got them]]; 'she' opened hers to see how it felt and then threw it away.

She also said she took a shower because it was hot outside, and she was at softball practice all day.

[[I'm having a hard time trusting her answers]]

You found a condom in your 15 year old daughter's room. I wouldn't trust her. Obviously her unusual behavior is hiding something. You are her mom and know her best - if you have to ask yourself if you should trust her, you probably have reason not to. Best of luck!

your thoughts are right of course. you cant stop your daughter from having sex , talk to her about birth control & diseases.

I would go with your thoughts, of course she's gonna deny something like that, but your a mother you can see right through her I bet! Because if she didn't have sex than why was their an empty condom raper and why were her sheets in the dirty closes? She probably got a shower so she wouldn't smell like she had sex!

From the evidence, I think she absolutely did do it(sorry, I'm 13, it still feels weird to say it). It sort of obvious, isn't it? From what I've read in books and literature, I think you should go talk to her about it, showing her all the evidence. Don't get mad, though. Also, tell her about diseases like HIV/AIDS, and that condom don't always work 100%.

best if you go with your thoughts, thats what would come to my mind. dirty sheets? condom in trash? early shower? definatly trying to cover something up. just be calm about it and possibly show her everything and say its suspicious. try not to be forceful, hopefully if she has never been dishonest to you she will cave in and tell you, its your decision wait for her to confess or confront her.... or both? confront her about it sit her down and talk about it, but not to accuse her... she will admit it if you are both open about it. i hope everything works out. sorry if my advice isnt that great.

Go with your mothers instint, your sooo right, sounds like shes not telling the truth

the best thing to do, is put her on birth control, I lost my virginity at 16, my mom never gave me the "talk", so i felt weird asking her to go on birth control and wish she would of talked to me about that stuff, story short, i ended up having a baby at 17, so it sounds wrong to put your 15 yr old on birth control, but i would and save all the trouble, even if shes not having sex yet, i would still do it on the safe side

good luck

I remember when I was 15, not very long ago I might add. I wouldn't tell my mom anything, it sounds to me like she's having sex. As hard as it will be you need to talk to her like you're her friend not her mother, she's more likely to open up to you that way. But at the same time you need to have a serious conversation about sex and the consequences of it. Is birth control an option? I doubt she's going to stop having sex just because you found out. She's just going to be more careful of when and where she does it. Take her down to a planned parenthood or really any health clinic and have her tested for STD's. Have the doctor talk to her about the risks of having sex so young. At least then, even if she wasn't having sex (which doesn't sound likely) you'll have all the bases covered for when she does decide to start having sex.

haha her story has bullshit written all over it.

I remmeber being 15 and I wouldn't trust a word she said. of course shes going to lie to you. she'll feel slutty if she wanted to do it and if she didnt she might be scared to just tell you. you should sit her down and have a talk about being pressured into things like sex.