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    10 Helpful Directions For Disciplining Toddlers

    1.Discipline Your Child, Not Punish

    Disciplining your child is more than giving out punishment – it is about making them learn from their mistakes. Punishment may in fact be the easiest course of action, yet it may not be as effective.

    When you opt for mere punishment to correct your child, you are merely scratching the surface of the problem. Punishment may address the problem right then and there, yet it may not stick to the minds of your little ones.

    It may also even create further problems in the personality development of your children. It is important when disciplining toddlers, to consider as well the emotional and psychological consequences. While it is indeed important to correct their behavior, yet an appropriate approach is necessary.

    2.Correct The Behavior As It Happens

    As has always been a rule in effectively modifying unwanted behavior, is to correct it as it happens. This will let your toddlers realize the specific actions that are unacceptable to you. Having to postpone the disciplinary action would just worsen the case – as your child will not be able to truly grasp what he did wrong & what you want them to improve.

    Being consistent with this approach will prove to be beneficial, and you will see the positive results of this. Never delay feedback – and make sure your child knows right away whether he has done something good or otherwise.

    3.Ignore The Temper Tantrum

    Temper tantrums are ways for children to get an adult’s attention. These are also ways for toddlers to communicate what they want & need at a particular time. Not being able to communicate in words at their stage, displaying these temper tantrums are effective ways for most children to get what they want – now!

    Even if being scolded by parents if they do so, most toddlers may still show such sudden outbursts – as this may be the only time for them to get noticed. Toddlers may show these tantrums at unexpected times and places – putting the nanny or their parents to a surprise.

    At home, you may just be able to correct this behavior by ignoring this when your child tries to make use of this attention-grabbing method. When you do this, you are making it clear to them that such outbursts will not make them get what they want.

    In the due course of time, your toddlers will understand this and will not have to display such tantrums as they find such method now ineffective. Not only will your children grow emotionally, they will realize that there are other & better ways in asking for what one wants. Part of that realization will also be that one will not always get what he wants, and being able to deal with this, is one way of growing up.

    4.Give Positive Reinforcement

    It has always been thought of that positive reinforcement works best for people. As human beings, there is that need for social acceptance & emotional well-being. When the discipline method is such that you plainly correct their behavior and not blame the doer – will do your toddler good. He will not have emotional scars & traumas that usually result from extreme measures and punishment.

    Positive reinforcement is ideal – as it works in correcting the problem and gives the toddler a feel good moment every time he does something good. The motivation then for this child is to continually aim for good behavior, as he now knows that these results to good things for him as well.

    So, the next time you think of disciplining your child – a raised voice and a stick may not be your perfect weapon. How about considering a good hug, a kiss, an extended time for playing with his toys, etc.? Surely, your child will appreciate this more – and he will grow up into a better person with a healthy personality.

    5.The Time Out Method

    This method involves giving the toddler 1 or 2 clear warnings – and sending him into a corner for about a minute per year of a child’s life - if he should not heed your warnings.

    Some would use a time-out chair, strategically located in a part of a room where social interaction is not possible. But for most toddlers, sitting still may not be possible – so a space on the floor or a child’s bed that takes him away momentarily will be good enough. A time out for a toddler is intended mainly for him to calm down & regroup.

    After the time out, you should remind him in the simplest way possible of the mistakes he had done - and that he will have to go back to the corner if he continues with the inappropriate behavior.

    6.Diverting Toddler’s Attention

    If you want to temporarily correct a toddler’s behavior, you may do so by diverting him to another useful, safe and productive activity. The memory span of a toddler is quite short at this stage - so you can easily distract him from continuing with his current behavior and lead him towards more desired ones.

    Such may be allowing him to play with a toy when he starts to do an undesired action. Or you may want to make household chores a game, like who can clean up the play room faster. Either way, your child will stop with what he is currently doing, and move on to what you intend for him to do. The key is in trying to create a situation that you get your toddler to do what you like – and making him want to do it for himself.

    7.Talk To Your Pediatrician

    You may also want to ask you pediatrician for advice. With their experience and being in constant interaction with parents, they may just be able to give you a dose of advice that suits your case well. You need all the help you can get – and any valuable opinion coming from respected people are surely worth your time to learn and try out at your own home.

    8.Subscribe To The Preschool/Daycare’s Method

    It may also be just fit for you to see what your child’s daycare approach is - in terms of giving out disciplinary actions. With the line of service the daycare is, the more probability that their methods have been carefully evaluated and studied. They may have based their approach on trainings their staffs have attended - and thus, scientific methods that they are employing may just be the answer in your homes as well.

    9.Be Consistent

    In any discipline method, it is important that you are consistent with your approach. - this includes anybody in your house living with you. This will send a clear message to your toddlers what is prohibited and what limits are set for his actions.

    Especially in these important stages of a child’s life, it is advisable that he should be made to know of what are good & what are considered bad. In this formative stage, your toddler will then grasp what is expected of him & grow up to become a good child.

    10.Try Your Options

    As long as you feel that a discipline method is morally correct – and that it does not create problems for the child, whether in the current time or in some future time – then you have the luxury of trying it out.

    While your immediate objective is to correct an undesired behavior, your long-term objective should be such that the child will grow to become a good person with a pleasant personality at that. The child should grow up with a feeling of being loved. This will result to a healthy self-confidence for him - and he will thus be able to interact well with others and correspondingly increase his chances of success in the outside world.

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